Lucie Rothwell

My Activity Tracking

111
mi

My target 100 mi

I’m fundraising for the charity Sands!

This year I'm taking part in My Marathon My Way to raise vital funds for Sands during this incredibly difficult time.

In these uncertain times, the Sands helpline and online community are vital in keeping bereaved families connected by offering a safe, confidential and compassionate space to talk.

The NHS is stretched and Sands are there to support with the various emotional needs bereaved parents and families have day to day, which can be heightened in such uncertain times.

Sands is not immune from the effects of this pandemic so I’m taking on My Marathon My Way to save lives with every mile.

My Updates

Ellis Philip Rothwell

Wednesday 25th Nov
On Friday 6th March 2009 I was 23 weeks pregnant and woke up feeling very poorly. I got my daughter, Tia, up and ready for school, took her to school and then went to work. By 10am I was feeling even worse, I felt so sick and wasn't able to work so I went home. As soon as I walked through the door I was sick and this carried on throughout the day. It got to 6pm and I could feel contractions so my husband, Ste, took me to the hospital where they checked me over. They said I was not in labour, gave me some anti sickness tablets and told me to come back if the pains carried on. The next day Saturday 7th March, the contractions got worse so Ste took me back to the hospital, they checked me over again and said I was not in labour but they would keep me in overnight to check on the pains. I had contractions all through the night and didn't sleep. The next morning, Sunday 8th March, I was seen by a consultant when I started bleeding. She also told me I was not in labour and said that I should go home and come back if anything else happened. I didn't want to leave because I was bleeding and having contractions at only 23 weeks and I was scared. I was told I couldn't stay another night because they didn't think I was in labour. Ste came to collect me and took me home where in the space of half an hour our son, Ellis, was born on the bathroom floor with 3 paramedics. The paramedics had never dealt with such a premature birth and didnt know what to do for Ellis. They called the maternity ward to get advice and were told to cut his cord and get him straight to the hospital. I had to wait for another ambulance to come and take me to the hospital so arrived around 15 minutes after Ellis on my own. Ste had followed in the car. As I was wheeled into the room I could see a very large group of medical professionals crowded around Ellis and one of the ladies there came over to me. She didn't wait for Ste to arrive so we were together, instead she just told me there was nothing they could do for Ellis and that he would die. I didn't understand what she was saying to me and a hundred things were going through my head. I was sat on a hospital bed on my own with my son's placenta still inside and this lady had just told me he was going to die. After 10 minutes Ste came to the door but before he had chance to get to me, the same lady approached him and I knew what she said because Ste's face just crumpled in anguish. She couldn't even let him get across the room to me first. It all felt so heartless. The next hour was spent having Ellis' placenta physically pulled out of me and suffering slight blood loss. Then we had 6 precious hours with Ellis before he took his last breath snuggled in my arms. Ste and I just held him tight for his short life, snuggled him and made sure he felt our love. When he passed away the hospital moved us into a family room where we were allowed to keep him with us. It was 2am by this point and Ste fell asleep on the bed with exhaustion and emotion. I spent the whole night undressing and then dressing Ellis. I didnt want to forget a single inch of his body. I cuddled him, smelled him, walked the room with him and cried all night long. In the morning we were told that Ellis would have to be taken to the morgue soon. I couldn't cope with it. The thought of him being on his own in that horrible cold place. We were then told that as soon as the morgue received his death certificate they would be able to release him to the funeral home where we would be able to see him again before his funeral. So later that day Ste had to physically drag me out of the family room, leaving Ellis snuggled up on the bed. That was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, leaving him on his own like that. 
We went to register his birth in our home town and then had to drive to the hospital town to register his death all in the same hour so that he would be released to the funeral home. For the next week I spent all my days in the funeral home with Ellis until the day of his funeral came and I knew I wouldn't be able to see or touch him again. His coffin was so small and the funeral home made him a beautiful wooden cross with a gold plaque with his name etched on it until we had his head stone in place. It was just Ste and I at his graveside funeral, I couldn't cope with having people there. 
Now 11 years on I still cry for him and remember the way he was born, I am bitter in some ways because I feel it should never have happened. I love talking about Ellis and keeping his memory alive. 
I am doing the Marathon My Way to raise money for this phenomenal charity who provide so much help and support for families like mine, not just for the parents but for the brothers and sisters too. 
Please donate, even if it is just 50p. It all adds up and really does make a difference. 
Thank you for listening. 

Thank you to my Sponsors

£100

Janine Hartley

If I could hug you right now you wouldn't be able to breathe xxx

£52.50

Marie ,gary And Carol Frodsham

Congratulations Lucie...you are a true warrior and an inspiration...much love xxx

£42

Lucie Rothwell

£36.75

Jessica

£21

Ben Evans

£21

T Tinsley

Well done Lucie xxx

£21

Deb

£21

Lee Preston

Well done Loo 🙂

£21

Jane Thorpe

Netty would be very of you 💓 stay strong xxxx Well done Lucie, so brave xxx

£21

Nicola Holt

Lucie you are such an amazing and strong person and it pains me to know you had to go through something so awful 😢 You are just incredible. if you fancy someone to socially distance walk with I’m always here xxxx

£21

Melissa Davies

£21

Sue Konkwo

£21

Jim Wood

Such a very worthwhile charity Lucie. I remember having a collection amongst the Seniors to help cheer you up a little after you returned to the club following your maternity leave. Lots love Lucie xx

£21

Kiah

£21

Joanne Schenck

Good luck Lucie, your doing amazing! Xxx

£21

Caroline Falcon

So proud of you 😘😘

£21

John Thompson

As promised, on behalf of Dad who would have been so proud of what you are doing 💙😎

£21

Mama Bear

Well done lucie. A small amount to help you reach your target. Much love. Mama bear. Xx

£20

Helen Tees

£20

Tanya Cartwright

Proud of you Loo, you’re smashing it! 🙌 Lots of love ❤️ xxx

£10.50

Rach

£10.50

Angie Buckley

Your amazing Lou xx. With much love

£10.50

Morgan Lawton

This is so amazing and inspiring Lucie! So much love to you all ❤️

£10.50

Katie

Lucie you and your family are so strong, and it’s amazing that you are raising money for such a great cause. Good luck xxx

£10.50

Valerie Evans

£10.50

Claire Stalker

Good luck!

£10

John Thompson

Keep going Lucie!

£10

Toni Fleetwood

£10

Kerry Sleight

£10

Lucie Rothwell

£10

Louise Hill

£10

Philip Hardy

Proud of you, love Dad. Xxxx

£10

Chel

Love you, your an inspiration xxx

£7.35

Tia Hardy

Love you mum ❤️

£5.25

Helen Lewin

Well done Lucy, just read your fb today and my heart broke. I visit Ellis for you also and even though I never met him he still makes me cry everytime. You are amazing and he would be super proud of his mummy xxx

£5.25

Katie Roberts

Amazing cause , well done for completing it xx

£5.25

Debbie

£5.25

Louise Lewin

Good luck my little dolly. You are amazing as always xxx

£5.25

William Byrne

Apologies, £5 is all I have at the moment. What an incredible person you are. I wish you all the luck and love in the world❤️Stay safe, keep going and keep being the light that you are to so many!

£5.25

Sarah Mercer

£5

Jodi Balcomb

Well done Lou! Much love x

£5

Joanne Wren